For men, is there a way to avoid looking feminine when work is being done?

Dear Dr. Irwin, I've found your website very informative. I appreciate all your posts and articles, they have been quite helpful. I have one question I would like to ask though. I am a man and I have been considering fillers and a good maintenance program so that I can stay looking as young and fresh as possible for as long as possible. So my main concern is going to a qualified doctor that knows the appropriate way to administer fillers to a masculine face and keep it looking masculine and not "enhanced" or "feminine". I say this because I see men that look like they have been overdone and that isn't the look I'm going for. I'm guessing you are informed about the medical community and who does good work with men in keeping them young and fresh so I had to ask who you might recommend me to go see to have these procedures, or Botox and dermal fillers. The goal for me is to retain my natural features and prevent further wrinkles and restore the fullness to my face lost from years of exercise and of course sagging from age. Any suggestion on a doctor in the Orange County or Los Angeles area that is qualified and known for working well with men and keeping their facial features masculine would be greatly appreciated. Doctor, thank you again for your informative and educational articles and I look forward to hearing your input. In Health, M

You raise a good point.  There are some facial characteristics that are culturally labelled masculine or feminine traditionally.   So if the doctor doing your work isn’t sensitive to that, you might look feminized, if I’m understanding your question correctly.

For example, a strong jawline (mandible) is traditionally masculine while a softer, rounder mid cheek is traditionally feminine.  One way to help your doctor understand what you want is to bring to some pictures of yourself when you were younger with you or, magazine images might be helpful  if the "model" has a facial structure naturally similiar to your own.

A cosmetic dermatologist or plastic surgeon should be able to help you achieve your goals since he/she would have a whole range of options including fillersBotoxlasers, surgery to help you.  The key is to find someone you can communicate with, who’s also skilled  and ethically sound.  These articles will help you find a great cosmetic dermatologist: How to Find a Good Doctor and Regional Doctors.  Dr. I


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